LIVE LIFE
ON YOUR TERMS
People-pleasing is not kindness. Itâs control. Driven by fear.
Fear of disappointing others, rejection, not being enough.Â
You canât break free from the cycle of people-pleasing until you let go of that fear.
If you donât release it first, trying to live life on your terms will feel like a constant battle against yourself:Â
Your desires pull you one way, your fear drags you back. An exhausting battle your fear will always win.Â
If thereâs one thing I wish I had known before starting my journey to break free from people-pleasing, itâs that letting go of my fear should have been the first step.Â
Recognizing and releasing your fear is the ONLY way to break free from people-pleasing in a way that actually lasts. Thatâs exactly what youâll learn inside From Fear to Freedom, my new program that's launching soon.
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UNAPOLOGETIC
TRUTHS
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Letâs be honest.
How many times have you said "yes" when you meant "no"? How often do you ignore your needs to keep the peace?Have you tiptoed around othersâ moods, overthinking every single word and still wondering if youâre doing enough.
Hereâs the unapologetic truth: thatâs not living.
Thatâs surviving. And it leaves you feeling unseen, unappreciated and exhausted. Itâs time for a change.Â
Every week, I share unapologetic truths to help you cut through the noise. Practical tips and mindset shifts, so yo can stop bending over backward for everyone else and start embracing your true self.
Let's get unapologetic.
Everything is possible,Â
once you let go of your fear.Â
For most of my life, I have been fighting an inner battle without even realizing it. On the outside, I looked unstoppable. Ambitious, traveling the world and loving my career as a corporate trainer. When I set my mind to something, I made it happen. Big decisions like emigrating or new career opportunities never scared me.
But inside, I would get lost in insignificant details, overthinking for hours. How did others perceive what I had said or done? Unconsciously, I was always scanning for approval and adjusting myself to fit imagined expectations. I over performed and gave endlessly, until I hit a wall and couldnât go on. Thatâs when I realized that the very qualities I had always been praised for, were the ones that were quietly destroying me.
I started the journey of breaking free from these people-pleasing patterns. I tried all the usual advice: set more boundaries, say no more often, carve out more me-time. It helped briefly, but it also felt heavy, as if I was constantly fighting against myself.
On one hand, I craved more space and the freedom to speak my truth.
On the other, I was terrified of being rejected if I did.
That inner conflict kept pulling me back into the same old patterns.
After years of being coached, researching and experimenting, I finally found the missing key. So far, I had only been treating the symptoms. But treating symptoms is useless, without addressing the root cause: the fear thatâs driving it all.
Letting go of your fear is non-negotiable if you want to break free from people-pleasing in a way that actually lasts. Releasing fear became the foundation of my signature framework, The People-Pleasing Triangleâ˘. The proven pathway out of people-pleasing and the exact methodology I use to help you break free and live life on your terms. I combine psychology, behavioral science and practical, hands-on tools, empowering you to stop living for others and start living YOUR life to the fullest.
While my family and I are following our dreams and building our âQuintaâ in Portugal, I know now that true freedom doesnât come from the outside. It all starts with releasing the fear that has been running the show. And that's the exact skill I embody, teach and refine every single day.
"Tamar is incredibly positive and full of energy. She always focuses on whatâs possible, even when things seem to be tough."
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"What I love about Tamar is that she doesn't just give quick fixes, she is helping me dive into deep inner work. I'm now learning how to question and adjust my thoughts, beliefs, and honour my needs, speek up with confidence, and set boundaries that feel healthy and grounded, not out of fear or guilt. I'm also reconnecting with a deeper sense of who I really am. "
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